Indigo Tries Long-Term Relationship!

8 out of 10

Would recommend highly if you like this sort of thing.

Pairs well with a good cider. Any kind will do, but you know it’s been there for you in the past and will be in the future.

This could also be called Monogamy: My Love Story. I have always been a monogamous-minded person. It’s been a truth in my brain that I would commit my life to one person since I was a young human. I never really dreamed about weddings as I grew up. Instead, I dreamed of honeymoons. I pictured myself climbing slopes of Scotland with a beautiful lady. I imagined being in the arms of a tall, dark man in a hotel in India. I visualized my partner and I on a tour of catacombs in Egypt.

It’s probably safe to say that I’ve envisioned myself with a number of different people, body types and settings. I always pictured one at a time, and I was never picky. A few of my friends believed that meant I was polyamorous. They said “You don’t have to settle for one person in life. You can explore.”

And this is where I differ from polyamory: I never see monogamy as settling. I look at spending my life with one other person and it feels like a privilege. This world is full of fascinating people. I meet them every day and get to know them in a platonic way. And when my day is over, I come home to the same person I did yesterday, last week and I hope every day in the future. Every day, I learn some little thing about him. And things I already knew make me smile even more.

As a child, I didn’t have a lot of stable people in my life. The folks who stayed around lacked logic and I was emotionally lost more often than not. I asked everyone I met to stay in my life. Not out loud, of course. But in my own silent way. Every year, I had a new best friend because every year, they moved away. I didn’t begin to date people until I was 20 because I didn’t trust anyone to stay around long enough to get attached. My first boyfriend became a nightmare that I still occasionally deal with. (That’s a story for a different day.)

Finally, I found a human. I had been on the dating app Plenty of Fish for about six hours when I received a message that seemed innocent and harmless. He used a few pick-up lines on me (which did not happen often, even on dating sites). About an hour later, I shared my phone number so I could text him while I was at work instead of you know, working.

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Damn, this line was good.

We talked like this all week and finally met in person 6 days later. We shared bubble tea. We shared a walk, a kiss, a make-out session on my couch. We kept seeing each other whenever we could, including abandoning my family Christmas party early (sorry, fam). He came to visit me as I traveled out of town. (The logistics actually made me closer to him on this trip. Geography is weird.) One week after that, we spent 7 days snowed into my apartment playing games. Two months later, I returned from a long trip out of state and said “I love you.” It was the first time I had said it to another human romantically.

It’s now been over a year. We’ve met each others’ families and moved in. He’s held me while I cry. He’s gently prodded me out of bed for breakfast. He’s comforted me in times of self-doubt. I’ve tried hard to do the same for him. We found a rhythm in our little corner of world. And with him, I’ve been able to find what I love. From the security of my trust and warmth in this relationship, I found the dreams that I had buried a long time ago. They’re different now. But they are still good, and he’s making them better every day.

OOPS NO FUNNY. I just wanted my cupcake to know I love him. Have this picture of my sexy alabaster legs as re-payment.

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They might even be shaved! WOO.

One thought on “Indigo Tries Long-Term Relationship!

  1. Sara Testarossa says:

    This is super sweet. Thank you for sharing your love story, and how you got to where you are now. Neat to read about how you see monogamy for yourself, too 🙂

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