Indigo Tries the Spareparts Tomboi!

9 out of 10

Pairs nicely with a Dark and Stormy. It’s deep and refined, like a good pair of mens underwear. But it’s also a little fruity with a nice pop.

This toy was sent to me by my good friends at Betty’s Toybox in exchange for a fair and honest review. You can purchase it here in Red or here in Black. At the time of this post, they run for about $90 (USD). 

The Spareparts Tomboi box is sitting on a wooden floor with a yellow wall behind it. The box is black and has a picture of a masculine-leaning person on it.

I thoroughly enjoy dicks, and what I enjoy also as much as dicks in me is dicks on me. I previously owned only one harness, which I really enjoyed using with a partner. It had almost everything I wanted in a harness, including plus-sized options, except it was incredibly gendered as femme. Sometimes, I don’t want to be femme. In reality, I’m more likely to feel masc when I want to pack or use a strap on. With my harness being so gendered, I would sometimes put it on and feel immediately uncomfortable. To aid this gap in my toys, I requested the Tomboi Harness, created by Spareparts. The kind folx over at Betty’s Toybox sent this, along with the Pierre to help my review queue while I was out of state during the summer.

The Tomboi runs about $90 (US) at time of posting. This is quite a large investment for many people, which I am not ignoring here. If cost is an issue, there are a few other brands that are worth looking at, including the Sportsheets Divine Diva, which I have reviewed. However, for those who aren’t plus-sized, I would recommend looking through this list for something appropriately sized. I have no reviews of these, but others may.

However, the price is the one major downfall of the Tomboi. When I opened the package, I was immediately won over by the fabric of this harness. It comes packaged in a carrying pouch of the same material the harness is made from. It feels slippery, smooth and still durable. It doesn’t feel out of place when I run my hands over it. Though I don’t run into much nylon underwear, I don’t expect that this harness would not be all that eye-catching or unusual to find in someone’s underwear drawer. I requested the red option because I love how the details of the waistband and the seams make it feel like just another pair of underwear that I’m putting on.

The Spareparts Tomboi is unfolded and laying on a clean wooden floor while the carrying bag lays beside it. The bag is propped up so that you can see the SpareParts logo. The bag is all read nylon. The Tomboi itself is mostly red with a black waistband and black trim. It's shaped roughly like typical men's underwear.

As a harness, the design of the Tomboi is perfect. It has two fabric pieces in the lining of the cod piece that overlap just enough to securely hold a toy in place, but open enough that it’s easy to remove the toy. In the front of the underwear itself is a ring that is completely hidden within the fabric, so the transition from underwear into harness feels discreet and seamless. This works perfectly with how my dysphoria manifests. This toy doesn’t trigger it because it just feels like another part of the underwear. It makes it easy to forget the dick in place is silicone and not factory-installed.

The ring is stretchy enough to fit dildos from 1.25 inches up to 2.25 inches, which allows for the most common dildo sizes to work with the harness. Additionally, since the holding fabric is in two pieces, it’s possible to part them and use this harness with a two-sided dildo. I will admit that getting a two sided dildo inserted into myself, at the same time as pulling up tight underwear was a bit of a challenge. I would not recommend trying it out without making sure you’re stretched properly. And I mean that for your vagina AND your legs. That was some exercise.

The SpareParts box is open to reveal the front of the Tomboi. It's wrapped with tissue paper. The focus of the photo is the o-ring, which is about an inch in diameter in the center of the Tomboi.This harness feels really secure in use. Though I haven’t fucked anyone with it, I did masturbate with it. The experience felt comfortable and not forced with this harness. To top it off, I could fit many different dildos in there, so I could follow my feelings on which dildo to use. This means that when I want my regular dildo (the one that is my dick), I can use it, or I can substitute a different one by my partners’ request.

In short, I’m a huge fan of this harness. When I used this harness to pack, everything stayed in place all day. When I use it for play (on my own), it was comfortable and natural to wear. Based on how I tested it during a solo session, I am sure that it will be a huge part of my partnered scenes, and I’m excited to use this harness more.

This toy was sent to me by my good friends at Betty’s Toybox in exchange for a fair and honest review. You can purchase it here in Red or here in Black. At the time of this post, they run for about $90 (USD).

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