Indigo Plays Favorites with Companies!

Happy Holiday Season, Party People! This is the ninth post in my 12 days celebration! What better way to celebrate Capitalism than posting reviews where you can purchase these fine items with my affiliate links?

10 out of 10
Pairs nicely with some hot tea. It makes you feel warm and cozy inside, and it can be a stimulating past time.
So a little bit ago, I confessed to playing favorites with companies and I worried that it might be unprofessional or give me a bias. A few people jumped in to say that this isn’t true, or if it is true, then it’s not an issue. So I spent some time thinking about what I do as a reviewer. In the sex toy industry, we are all alone. There is no standard way to do things, and there are often no laws or restrictions. Returns are not possible (or should not be if they are, because how do you deal with a returned toy that has been on/in someone’s bits). Who is advocating for the customers?
Well that is my job. I believe that calling out problematic companies is important for this reason. Often, people buying sex toys are doing so discreetly and they don’t have time or opportunity for research. If they don’t know their bodies very well, then they might not know which toy they will like. As a reviewer, it’s part of my job to be the researcher. It’s my job to know bodies and what they will like. So when I play favorites with companies, I am just doing my job, and that’s not only okay. It’s perfect.
So without further ado, I want to talk about three different companies that I have absolutely fallen in love with this year, and tell you why! I will try not to make this post too long, but I do want to emphasize how these companies have helped me grow as an educator and blogger, and how their business has helped customers in some way.
First up is Lust Arts. I go on a lot of Twitter rants about this company. I met them this year because they approached me about sponsorship for Woodhull, as well as some consulting things. This was the first company I’ve ever consulted with, and the first event sponsor to approach me. I was so flattered to receive that email. After having my consultations with them over video, I decided that I was in love with this company.
Their boxes are always a delight to receive. I have gotten stickers and chocolates and all kinds of other treats, which is frankly delightful. This aspect of their boxes was even something we discussed in our consulting call, and it was amazing how much information was shared between me and Lust Arts. I have since heard that they have treated others just as well, including paying others for time and information, which I find to be truly delightful to hear about a company. The personal touches are great as a reviewer.
The sponsorship deal included sending me one toy to review, but I was having a hard time choosing, and so they sent me both of the toys I was debating between. When I had received them, and loved them, I was sent a replacement for one. Not because I had any issues, but because they felt they could have done a better job with the pour. Their products are amazing, and you can read my reviews of them to understand how I really feel about the toys I own from them.
I had the distinct pleasure of meeting one of the owners when I visited Colorado this year, and she was amazing and kind. We spent the better part of a day in downtown Denver and connected on so many things. I will always be grateful to have found a good friend there, and I hope I can see her again this year!
Next up is Betty’s Toybox! This company made it’s way onto my favorites list when they agreed to send me one of my first review toys. I was delighted to have their trust as a baby blogger. Later that year, I pitched them a sponsored post, and they accepted! It was that moment that I knew how this company was helping the industry. They have historically been the most open to new bloggers and have boosted so many others up. To this day, I have running email chains with them. When I finish reviewing one product, they pop right in with another they want to send me. On top of that, they never push me to finish within a time frame. I will always be happy to write thorough reviews for this company, and I’m glad they let me do my job this way.
Recently, they redid their website to make it more gender inclusive. This renovation was spurred by a call-out for their site having labels like “For Him” and “For Her.” That’s right, everyone. This company messed up and they are still on my favorites list. That’s because they acknowledged the infraction and then they fixed it. I was truly amazed when I saw this happen. It gives me hope that this company will continue to grow and help the community in the same way it has these past two years.
And last, but certainly not least is Creamed and Sugared. I have written two reviews for this company so far. There’s a lot about them that I like on paper, and that is really why they made this list. I’ve only know about this company for about five months now, so I’ve been trying to play it chill. It’s not really working though. I was introduced to the company at Woodhull this year, and I immediately liked them because they were small and local. In addition to that, they were involved in a number of small and local events. This involvement in the community was the main thing that really sparked my adoration for this company.
Their website is very easy to read, and they include their own fun personality in every description. When you read their about page, you find funny quips and open personalities, but when you read the page about caring for their products, the focus shifts into the professional demeanor that is necessary. The balance of this is accomplished well, and I will always enjoy reading it.
Which brings us finally to the products. I have two products that I received for reviews from Creamed and Sugared. But on top of that, I have handled many more. In fact, I’m pretty sure their table person is tired of chatting with me. But I just really enjoy good craftsmanship! Their products by and large have at least two functions, both of which they will accomplish well. The care for them is easy. They also offer refinishing services for a small fee, which adds security to a purchase. You know that your toy will be taken care of and that is truly a comfort.
To wrap this up, I love companies who are professional, but with a personal touch. When the quality of work is good, and their websites are inclusive, I’m going to like them. I have a strong fondness for small or indie businesses. But I also appreciate a retailer that knows what this industry needs. I want companies to support our smaller bloggers and help lifts others. And above all, I want there to fantastic quality to the products. These three companies have so much of my love, and I think they should have yours too. I’ve been a surrogate customer, so you know that your investment isn’t wasted.
Today, I’ll pat myself on the back for a job well done.

Indigo Tries the Spareparts Tomboi!

9 out of 10
Pairs nicely with a Dark and Stormy. It’s deep and refined, like a good pair of mens underwear. But it’s also a little fruity with a nice pop.
This toy was sent to me by my good friends at Betty’s Toybox in exchange for a fair and honest review. You can purchase it here in Red or here in Black. At the time of this post, they run for about $90 (USD). 
The Spareparts Tomboi box is sitting on a wooden floor with a yellow wall behind it. The box is black and has a picture of a masculine-leaning person on it.
I thoroughly enjoy dicks, and what I enjoy also as much as dicks in me is dicks on me. I previously owned only one harness, which I really enjoyed using with a partner. It had almost everything I wanted in a harness, including plus-sized options, except it was incredibly gendered as femme. Sometimes, I don’t want to be femme. In reality, I’m more likely to feel masc when I want to pack or use a strap on. With my harness being so gendered, I would sometimes put it on and feel immediately uncomfortable. To aid this gap in my toys, I requested the Tomboi Harness, created by Spareparts. The kind folx over at Betty’s Toybox sent this, along with the Pierre to help my review queue while I was out of state during the summer.
The Tomboi runs about $90 (US) at time of posting. This is quite a large investment for many people, which I am not ignoring here. If cost is an issue, there are a few other brands that are worth looking at, including the Sportsheets Divine Diva, which I have reviewed. However, for those who aren’t plus-sized, I would recommend looking through this list for something appropriately sized. I have no reviews of these, but others may.
However, the price is the one major downfall of the Tomboi. When I opened the package, I was immediately won over by the fabric of this harness. It comes packaged in a carrying pouch of the same material the harness is made from. It feels slippery, smooth and still durable. It doesn’t feel out of place when I run my hands over it. Though I don’t run into much nylon underwear, I don’t expect that this harness would not be all that eye-catching or unusual to find in someone’s underwear drawer. I requested the red option because I love how the details of the waistband and the seams make it feel like just another pair of underwear that I’m putting on.
The Spareparts Tomboi is unfolded and laying on a clean wooden floor while the carrying bag lays beside it. The bag is propped up so that you can see the SpareParts logo. The bag is all read nylon. The Tomboi itself is mostly red with a black waistband and black trim. It's shaped roughly like typical men's underwear.
As a harness, the design of the Tomboi is perfect. It has two fabric pieces in the lining of the cod piece that overlap just enough to securely hold a toy in place, but open enough that it’s easy to remove the toy. In the front of the underwear itself is a ring that is completely hidden within the fabric, so the transition from underwear into harness feels discreet and seamless. This works perfectly with how my dysphoria manifests. This toy doesn’t trigger it because it just feels like another part of the underwear. It makes it easy to forget the dick in place is silicone and not factory-installed.
The ring is stretchy enough to fit dildos from 1.25 inches up to 2.25 inches, which allows for the most common dildo sizes to work with the harness. Additionally, since the holding fabric is in two pieces, it’s possible to part them and use this harness with a two-sided dildo. I will admit that getting a two sided dildo inserted into myself, at the same time as pulling up tight underwear was a bit of a challenge. I would not recommend trying it out without making sure you’re stretched properly. And I mean that for your vagina AND your legs. That was some exercise.
The SpareParts box is open to reveal the front of the Tomboi. It's wrapped with tissue paper. The focus of the photo is the o-ring, which is about an inch in diameter in the center of the Tomboi.This harness feels really secure in use. Though I haven’t fucked anyone with it, I did masturbate with it. The experience felt comfortable and not forced with this harness. To top it off, I could fit many different dildos in there, so I could follow my feelings on which dildo to use. This means that when I want my regular dildo (the one that is my dick), I can use it, or I can substitute a different one by my partners’ request.
In short, I’m a huge fan of this harness. When I used this harness to pack, everything stayed in place all day. When I use it for play (on my own), it was comfortable and natural to wear. Based on how I tested it during a solo session, I am sure that it will be a huge part of my partnered scenes, and I’m excited to use this harness more.
This toy was sent to me by my good friends at Betty’s Toybox in exchange for a fair and honest review. You can purchase it here in Red or here in Black. At the time of this post, they run for about $90 (USD).

Indigo Tries the Extra Touch G-Spot Finger Extender

7 out of 10
Pairs well with boxed wine. It’s incredibly cheap and therefor has a value all it’s own. But it can be delicious if you pair it with the right things.
This toy was sent to my by Betty’s Toybox for a fair and honest review! Buy it here!
There is a purple toy in a clear plastic case. It looks like a large finger with a jock strap around the bottom. There are textured bits at the base.
So first of all, the full name of this product is the Simple and True Extra Touch G-Spot Finger Extender. That name is way too long for what this toy is, honestly. This toy retails for about $17, and it’s hollow and not large. You know that person whose last name is Winchester and they come from a bunch of really white, old money, but they don’t have it anymore really because years of gambling forefathers and market crashes occurred, but they still went to a fancy school and insist they are on the way back up? They are educated, yes, but that long name didn’t get them too much more than that. That’s what this toy feels like.
So I requested this toy really late, and I happened to receive it because I was the only one who didn’t say “no” to it. And I immediately regretted this choice, if I’m being truthful. But it arrived in the mail and I legitimately wasn’t prepared for how creepy this toy is. For fuck’s sake, it has a fingernail as part of its sculpting. None of my roommates wanted to look at it. Many partners laughed as it lived on my bedside table, waiting to be tested. I put it off for about 6 weeks (which usually is the extent turnover rate, when I’m not moving my whole house and also in school full time).
Here’s the thing; as soon as I got this thing, I immediately thought of many things I would like to do with it that were not putting it in my vagina. Here’s some examples:

Two hands are in the frame. One is wearing the extra touch, and the other is bare. The two fingers are touching as if to parody the classic art work "The Creation of Man."
Recreating class works of art.

An arm in a car that can be seen with the Extra touch over the middle finger. It looks as if they are flicking off other drivers.
REALLY letting know other drivers how I feel.

So I put off testing it. but I couldn’t put it off anymore. I needed to put this thing on and really give it a fair shake. I mean, how many times in my teenage years did I just wish my middle finger was longer and thicker, exactly like this toy?
My first thought when I put this one is “What is with that texture near the base?” Well, I can say that after weeks of extensive testing, I still don’t fucking know. There was no angle at which I could make that actually touch my vulva, so I’m going to assume that it’s a side effect, as opposed to an actual feature. Even if it could touch me, I doubt I would feel much from this. I immediately filed that texture under “unnecessary.”
I was surprised when I placed my hand in the sleeve and found the band is actually stretchy enough to fit my hands, which are quite wide. Someone once told me I have earth hands, whatever that means. I think it’s safe to say that I’m not the first option for a new fistee. My hands just aren’t narrow. (Another friend who does palmistry said I have air hands, whatever THAT means. But I digress.)
Well, the truth of this toy is that I don’t dislike it. After I placed it on my hand, I grabbed a vibrator and inserted my finger/this thing. It was actually big enough that even I could feel it. This was my first moment of being genuinely impressed. My second was how easy it was to feel on my g-spot. The angling of this toy is pretty okay, as it turns out. It’s hollow the whole way through, but still thick enough to be wiggled and shoved around. As a result, if I angle it upwards, it feels pretty damn good for me.
After a few minutes of working with this toy, however, I started feeling a strong pain in my wrist. In my teenage years, I always thought these toys would be a good idea, but in reality, it only adds about an inch of length to my middle finger. As a result, I still have to hit a pretty steep an difficult angle in order to make this feel good. And yes, my wrist hurts when I hit this angle. It hurts a lot.
Indigo's hand is over a black and green dish. Their finger is in a large purple sleeve with a strap above their thumb to hold it to their hand.
Honestly, this toy is not great for solo play. With only an inch added, unless you have really long fingers (mine are weirdly short), this is going to be hard to use. However, with a partner, I suspect that this toy would be fabulous. (I wanted to test this toy with a partner, but I didn’t have one at the time. If that changes, and I think of it, I’ll be sure to update this post.) But I assume it’s naturally easier to reach the angle required when the hand being used isn’t attached to your own body. As a result, this toy may be ideal for partner play. It’s inexpensive, but it adds a lot to a good finger bang.
In short, this toy is an excellent find, especially for the low cost of $17. If you’re looking for something to help out your fingering game, I would recommend this toy. If you’re looking for something solo, you’d better have some really healthy cartilage in your wrists. Either way, you may want to be mentally prepared for large, sort of anatomically accurate purple fingers.

Indigo Does a Year-End Tour!

10 out of 10
Pairs well with champagne to ring in the new year and new experiences!
Hello folx! It is absolutely stunning to see you tune into this bit of delight I call my blog. I’m kicking off my Year-End Tour here at I’m an Adult by creating spreadsheets! One will be an orgasm sheet like the one Kate keeps, and the other will be a spreadsheet of all the toys I have acquired in my life (minus the shitty bullet vibes I bought as a stupid teen. On this post, I want to share my blog stats, and some lovely memories and new ideas from 2017.
This is also my first year as a sex blogger, so let’s talk stats from the year!

  • Number of Sex toy reviews: 38
  • Number of Drink Reviews: 5
  • Number of Educational posts: 18

Traffic Stats

First! What are my tops this year?

Honorable Mentions

The Least Favorites

I don’t want to make this post all lists. But I also didn’t want to leave out the lists. They are so vital to what I love. LISTS ARE AMAZING. So I left them short and sweet, and now that they are out of the way, let’s move on!
My Favorite Bloggers This Year
Girly Juice, A.K.A. Kate Sloan. When I first found Kate’s work, I didn’t really connect with it. She’s very femme and very active with play partners. It also felt like she had a lot of casual-sex-based relationships. If you recall, I was not this way at all until recently. However, as the year has gone on, I’ve changed a lot. I went through a huge break up and learned about my own sexuality. Now, I find myself identifying with her work more and more. I mean this in a lot of ways. Primarily, I love Kate’s style. Her posts have driving points that she uses emotion and fact to get to. As I come into my own style as a blogger, I find that it’s more and more influenced by hers. I especially see our styles coincide in my Situation and Education posts. These posts are usually driven by my need to express emotions and connect with a reader. I feel connected to Kate every time I read her articles. I am delighted to have met her at Woodhull this year, and I cannot wait for whatever she publishes next.
Dangerous Lilly. I had the pleasure of meeting Lilly for the first time at Woodhull this year. I knew of her work and I admired the drive and salt with which she tests materials and makes sure all the toys she recommends are safe. When I had the opportunity to volunteer for an event she was hosting, I jumped on it. (I have since been told that I was extremely helpful, go me.) Since Woodhull, Lilly has been an amazing friend. She is supportive and always has lovely things to say when I’m down. She helped me reach 500 Twitter followers this month, which was my personal goal for the year. I hope that I’ve returned the friendship, and I hope that we continue to get to know one another. I’ve already informed her I’ll be helping next Woodhull, so there’s that. Please visit her for salty (and hilarious) reviews, which I read when I need inspiration to write reviews for less than stellar toys.
Ace in the Hole A.K.A. Taryn. So this year, I had an accidental awkward moment with Taryn when I misunderstood how WordPress uses it’s follow option. I felt like a dope, but Taryn didn’t seem to mind, and for some reason still wanted to be my friend! So now I text her pretty femme things that make me think of her. I also super identify with her writing because I’m also on the ace spectrum! She’s been amazingly supportive and I really hope to continue cultivating a friendship in the new year with her. Her SEO for sex bloggers is an amazing series which I will definitely be reading and examining closer as soon as I fully accept that SEO needs to be a part of my life. Her writing is super amazing, and insightful, so go read it. Also, I regularly laugh at her tweets so hard that I cannot breathe, so please go follow her on twitter. 
Some Goals I Set (and Met) This Year
When I started blogging, it was for fun. I knew it would help my career, but I didn’t expect it to give me a sense of who I am. All of my friends who see the blog love it, and say that it’s very me. I’m proud to tell new people what I do in my spare time, and I’ve learned a lot. It’s affirmed my personality and my priorities in my own mind. This doesn’t even cover all the new friends I’ve made (which I couldn’t possibly cover in a post). I feel like I’ve really reset how I feel about my career and set myself on a path that I really want to be on.
Additionally, I now have over 500 followers on Twitter! I hate social media. I only have one account associated with this blog (Twitter) and I’m not getting any more. I don’t really take photos, and I don’t have more to say, so Instagram and Tumblr are out. I may at some point get a Snapchat for the blog and sell some nudes, but I haven’t been prepared to jump that hurtle yet, so we will see. However, in my first year, over 500 people decided to follow the zany shit I put on the internet, and I’m pleased as punch. Here’s to at least another 500 next year!
This year, I also had one sponsored post. I wrote all about Butt Stuff for Betty’s Toybox. I was really proud to say that my blog brought me some income, and I’m very happy to have teamed with them. I also hope to work with them in the future on more blog posts, so stay tuned!
Goals for Next Year

  • Practice my work with SEO so I can continue to feel growth.
  • Educate more than I review, which is not true right now.
  • Get more sponsored posts. (Companies, if you want to work with me, click here!)
  • Get actually honest-to-goodness sponsored for Woodhull this year.
  • Focus some more on affiliate links and maybe get a pay from those? (I haven’t gotten any yet, and I’m sad about it.)
  • Host at least one giveaway!

I hope you’ve enjoyed something this year (despite it being a horrible trash fire)! I know I have, and I hope to continue my work for many more years. My audience is a lovely perk to what I’m doing on here, and I hope that they continue to get something out of it!
Do you have any things you wish you had seen this year, or wanna see next year? Any resolutions for you/your blog?